The fact that you got pregnant at such a young age must have been an eye opener. I am sorry to learn that you had such a terrible experience (being pregnant while being a student). I imagine the two activities can hardly go together. While expecting a baby must be a wonderful experience, expecting a baby when you’re not ready must be terrible. I think this because not only did you have to go through the pregnancy alone but you had to do a lot of foot work. For example, looking for the new parents of your child, giving your child away, etc. I am not sure if this process interrupted your studies or if you were able to keep on track but I sure hope you are still studying and getting prepared, for when the time comes again to have a baby you will be more mature and ready to receive this little human being.
You were exposed to three very important laws, mainly: the right to have an abortion, right to keep it secret (privacy), and the right to decide. The fact that these laws are fair to you does not erase the traumatic experiences that may come with exercising these rights. This is what I mean: Under the law you have the right to choose whether or not to keep the baby, but this law cannot cushion the painful moments to arrive at whatever decision you make. Second law indicates that you have a right to privacy, does this law mean that you should be ashamed? Or that people not even close to you would judge you? Again this law, on its own, indicates what a difficult situation a person in your shoes must face.
We must keep in mind that civilized nations make laws in order to make for a fairer society and thus make for a better way of living. But there are laws, perhaps not written, that could help us avoid relying on the already mentioned ones. Prudence, self respect, self determination, and respect for the unborn child, should be at least some of the unwritten laws that we should consider. In no way could I even try to teach you right from wrong, in no way could I even dream of judging you, but I can see that you went through I would consider a terrible experience (giving away what is rightfully mine, a baby), I can only wish you well. God bless Vanessa who opened her arms to your baby. May you be able to take from this experience at least one page of knowledge for your own good. I thank you for allowing us to see into this experience of your life.
The fact that you got pregnant at such a young age must have been an eye opener. I am sorry to learn that you had such a terrible experience (being pregnant while being a student). I imagine the two activities can hardly go together. While expecting a baby must be a wonderful experience, expecting a baby when you’re not ready must be terrible. I think this because not only did you have to go through the pregnancy alone but you had to do a lot of foot work. For example, looking for the new parents of your child, giving your child away, etc. I am not sure if this process interrupted your studies or if you were able to keep on track but I sure hope you are still studying and getting prepared, for when the time comes again to have a baby you will be more mature and ready to receive this little human being.
You were exposed to three very important laws, mainly: the right to have an abortion, right to keep it secret (privacy), and the right to decide. The fact that these laws are fair to you does not erase the traumatic experiences that may come with exercising these rights. This is what I mean: Under the law you have the right to choose whether or not to keep the baby, but this law cannot cushion the painful moments to arrive at whatever decision you make. Second law indicates that you have a right to privacy, does this law mean that you should be ashamed? Or that people not even close to you would judge you? Again this law, on its own, indicates what a difficult situation a person in your shoes must face.
We must keep in mind that civilized nations make laws in order to make for a fairer society and thus make for a better way of living. But there are laws, perhaps not written, that could help us avoid relying on the already mentioned ones. Prudence, self respect, self determination, and respect for the unborn child, should be at least some of the unwritten laws that we should consider. In no way could I even try to teach you right from wrong, in no way could I even dream of judging you, but I can see that you went through I would consider a terrible experience (giving away what is rightfully mine, a baby), I can only wish you well. God bless Vanessa who opened her arms to your baby. May you be able to take from this experience at least one page of knowledge for your own good. I thank you for allowing us to see into this experience of your life.
Sincerely,
Patricia McCoy